In the distraction-filled environment of the 21st century, society has fallen to a state where emotions and opinions are not fully expressed by a person in fear of rejection and conflict. With the dominant and false stereotype of vulnerability being stereotypically correlated to weakness, people are continuously discouraged in speaking out their minds and practicing what they value. Despite the argument of this action being a dependable way of protecting oneself and one’s relationships, it is inevitable that damage will result from the suppression of truth.
From personal experience, I can guarantee that hiding away from problems does absolutely nothing, besides worsening the situation at hand. In my sophomore year of high school, one of my closest friends and I had a misunderstanding that unnecessarily blew out of proportion. Long story short, I was unable to help her out with a film assignment last minute, which led to weeks of tension due to one moment of miscommunication. Now, as a rising junior, we have remained friends, yet our dynamic never returned to its fun and carefree state.
Looking back, this situation could have been fixed almost effortlessly . I could have confronted her about what was going on between us and elaborated on the personal issues that hindered me from assisting her. I could have remembered to be honest, open, and truthful– especially towards someone who I considered to be close to. All it takes is a talk to resolve a misunderstanding.
Communication is the key to avoiding issues from occurring or continuing. According to Forbes’ contributor Greg Satell, “[W]e rarely put serious effort toward expressing ourselves in a language that can be understood by those outside our tribe.” In this article, Satell emphasizes the importance of conversation and retaining an encouraging attitude towards expressing emotions as they are, or in other words, being straightforward with one’s feelings. It is as simple as exhibiting honesty that helps communication skills to grow. Being a great communicator opens up the doors to a life of decreased anxiety, healthier bonds, and truth-filled relationships. It eradicates heavy conflict and encourages confrontation with others in order to problem solve efficiently.
Learning the importance of communication has undoubtedly opened my eyes to be more careful in maintaining my relationships with others. I definitely have to grow a lot in becoming more courageous and open to confrontation, but I’m getting there!